Pick-Up Artist Tips: Storytelling in Action on VH1
Okay guys, this is "Part II" of the storytelling newsletter. In "Part I" we covered why storytelling is important and how it can improve your game dramatically. Now that you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful we are going to work on constructing your very own epics! In "Part I" there were two things I asked of you One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you. We are going to start out working with these things. First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas, cross off ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were "you kind of had to be there" stories. Now that you got 5 solid ideas down we are going to just focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.
To narrow it down, reflect on these 5 stories, which ones do you have the most emotional connection too, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience. For now, your main demographic with these stories is women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys) Also feel free to ask your friends about which story subjects they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts. And of course I'm sure there were still some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier. I said I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.
Now I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example) "So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home." Okay, pretty annoying story.I know, but we can turn this into something awesome. First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story. The first component, is "The Hook Question" The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved. You use the hook question to captivate the group and the hook question is the line you deliver to introduce your story. When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start going into the story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away. Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.
There are two different types of hook questions. An open ended hook question and a yes or no hook question. I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story. So a possible open ended hook question for my story would be "How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?" A possible yes or no hook question would be "Have you ever been to club voodoo?" So let's add this to the story. (Find a hook question for your example stories as well) I like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say Me: "Hey guys.how do you deal with people when you just can't get them to leave you alone?!" Group: "blah blah" Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out.the other day I am at club voodoo.(rest of story) Now that you have the hook question down, we are going to rewrite our stories to demonstrate aspects of identity because the next step is to demonstrate personality. There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.
My 5 things were: I am a musician I am a very social person I have a high and fun energy I have a good sense of humor I am interested in video and photography Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself. Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories. Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension. You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly. Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience. So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality. Me: "Hey guys.how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can't to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!" Group: "blah blah" Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out.
the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social). Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.) So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito.(pause).with a really bad taste in clothing (humor).you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).
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